This post is different from most others. I am going to share with you something deeply personal and entirely unrelated to business on the surface level.
Gleaning business related lessons will require you to read between the lines and think about what this means for you.
What I'm going to share is the most popular speech I've ever given. The best speech I've ever given.
This speech is the vows I shared with my (now) wife on our wedding day. And in many ways, these are the same vows I've made to my audience.
I could write entire books about several of the one-liners in this speech. But for now, I'll leave the extent to which you can use this to your imagination. Let it run wild with the possibilities of the world you can build for yourself, your family, your business, your audience.
Without further ado, here is my speech:
When I asked you to marry me 12 months ago, I told you that we were too focused on the destination and not on the journey. We both had goals and dreams that we wanted to achieve before we were ready to settle down. An idealized vision of when we would be ready to get married.
Today I want to reaffirm this sentiment to you. That our journey together is more important than any destination we will reach. I want to demonstrate my commitment to this journey we are embarking on together. And I want to do it in the only way I know how...
We’ve been watching a lot of suits lately. And there is this scene I love from Season 1 where Harvey is tasked with closing a new client. As the hot shot closer, Harvey doesn't mind the banter. He is toying with his prey. They talk back and forth for a while until Harvey lays down the hammer. He says:
“I’m not interested in getting your business. I'm interested in keeping it.”
This is advice to live by. When it comes to marriage, too many people are more interested in getting married or being married than they are staying married.
They have passion, attraction, maybe some fear in their relationships… they have shared interests like skiing or the Seahawks.
But when I look at they journey that we’ve been on to get here. The challenges, sacrifices, obstacles that we’ve overcome, successes we've achieved.
We have built a shared set of values.
And that’s what makes a successful marriage. Shared values.
My vows to you are rooted in these values:
And so Kristen, I would be lying if I said I wasn't interesting in getting married to you today. This is the greatest moment of my life. But 'm not just interesting in getting married.
I vow to keep our marriage until the day I die.